S.T.R.M. Quick Reference for people wanting to quick start their social life.

CDs Concerts and Events House Concerts Booking John Home Management Stores, Distributors Sheet Music Get involved! S.T.R.M.		Note: This page is very much under construction. Jump Starting Your Social Life (For Women)  [Men's list is coming] www.ldssinglesonline.com  For screening only. NOT for getting to know someone. See Cyber Love *Show up as your true, awesome and physically beautiful self: This is always step one because men have an "interested" switch with only two positions: ON (I like your shape and your look) and OFF (I don't like your shape or your look).  It's sad but true.  Women, on the other hand have "interested" switches that have a few more positions and can be based on a variety of elements (unlike the men).   (For more on this issue, ask me about our "Mahana" Chapter and getting a link to it.  This is a very deep subject and requires open minded attention to fully grasp) *Speaking of "interest switches," don't be so particular when it comes to physical specifications i.e. "Must be at least 6', black hair, tan etc.  All kinds of different men can grow on you.  In this, there is a back door potential into a woman's heart that does not exist in a man's.  Take advantage of this.  (And make sure you attend the next "The Way to a Man's/Woman's Heart").  I know this sounds like a double standard.  That's because it is.  Men are not women.  Women are not men.  Two approaches.  Two standards, two sets of does and don'ts etc.  Please refrain from judging what you're reading until you've been to a workshop.  For now, I've included these concepts in micro form as a quick start from women that I've met on plans and at different events that have asked me what I think the key considerations are for getting their life jumpstarted. *Discover or develop a sense of mission.  For real. This isn't something you can fake.  People will be bored with you if the only reason you have for living is to find love.  *Learn the art of conversation. Start by picking up the "ungame" at "amazon.com" *Get clear on who your market is, who's in your ball park (generally) so you don't waste time pining over someone who will most likely not respond.  There's a section in Cyber Love about this. Also, remember that as a woman, from a marketing standpoint, your market is anywhere from 4 years younger to 11 years older.  You can be interested in whoever you want, but just bear in mind that the men most likely to be interested in YOU are going to be older.  Another sad but true deal. *Learn refinement.  Stand straight.  Eat with your mouth closed (this is a big one believe it or not.  A lot of women don't).  Let the men open doors for you.  Take a man's arm.   Be a lady in every way.  (We will be coming up with a course on this, but for now just study people who you feel are refined.  You may even want to take someone to lunch and get some tips.  Refinement is a big issue but is not really something that most people even notice or address within themselves. *Develop the life changing power of tuning into someone else's life and becoming encouraging about who they are.  Sense another person's beauty and gifts.  Reflect it back to them and be encouraging about everything they are and everything they trying to do in their life. *Learn to flirt, withOUT chasing. *Show some skin (tastefully). Get rid of your turtle necks. *Learn to get comfortable with non sexual touch.  Men are SO responsive to touch.  You have no idea.  They are puppies. *Don't disagree.  Give your perspective, but do not disagree with someone or make him wrong in anyway.  What a turn off.   Give your feelings within the flow and play of the conversation rather than trying to yank someone off of his perspective into the "correct" one (yours). *Understand the key to feelings of self worth: True feelings of self worth are found, not as result of how much people love you, but of how much you love them.  It's that simple.  Find your love, and you will find your "love."